Let’s face it. Over 50, we start feeling our age just a little. Granted, our brains are still 25-years-old. So I was thinking about this dichotomy: things that a 50-year-old thinks about which would not even occur to a 20-something. In fact, some of these thoughts are relatively new to me. So I made a list related to life, relationships and sex.
Tell me which ones resonate the most with you.
- Why can’t I get stimulated without some effort or porn?
- My libido went on vacation. Hope it’s having a good time.
- Why doesn’t my partner want to have sex as often as we use to?
- I should talk to my partner more but I don’t want to make the effort.
- Is that a GREY pube?
- I wish my partner were more/less adventurous about sex.
- I’ve gained weight and I don’t want to see myself naked, let alone have my partner see me.
- I’m so stressed out and tired. I think I may need meds…or a lot more beer.
- I really don’t want to get a colonoscopy. Not excited about that one.
- Some nights I’d prefer to cuddle with my dog instead of my partner.
- Just shut up already! All of y’all.
- Why am I panting so much during/after sex?! It didn’t used to be this tiring.
- I want to explore a kink or fetish but my partner would NEVER EVER do that with me.
- I have too much responsibility and I worry too much, and it affects my sex life.
- This relationship is boring/hard/broken.
- How can I get my partner to (fill in the blank)?
- Now I understand why people get divorced after being together 20 years.
- I don’t want my kids to move out (or) I want my kids gone NOW (or both).
- Where did I leave my reading glasses?
- Why did I come into this room?
Some of the items are amusing.
Some of the items are bitterly true.
Number 15 “This relationship is boring/hard/broken.” I think this may be the synopsis of every relationship problem. We get bored, we do stupid stuff to relieve the boredom. Our stupid stuff causes hard feelings and then the relationship breaks.
If only we could honestly tell our partner how we are feeling without worrying that we are going to make them feel bad. We give obscure hints and are surprised when they do not read our mind.
Truthfully, I never thought about the things on your list when I was young. I was busy with child rearing and acquiring pocessions and with sex. Ok, I am still obsessed with sex but on a different level. As a young man quantity was king, as a old man quality is paramount.
November 4, 2018 at 9:33 pmIf only we could tell our partner how we are feeling without worrying that they will leave as a result…. You are wise, my friend, as always. Well put.
November 7, 2018 at 5:43 pm18 of 20. The colonoscopy is no big deal…really Get it done. I refuse to disclose the other one.
August 24, 2019 at 9:28 amI know you are right about the colonoscopy! Thanks for the nudge.
October 22, 2019 at 6:05 pm